Saturday, March 27, 2010

Downtime


Due to a small seizure, I was unable to play piano for the past three days. In the past I've gotten really angry with myself when my brain interferes with living my life, but I'm trying to overcome those negative and useless feelings. Still, I only have so many days left in this life to accomplish things. Surely, the universe knows this. What lesson am I supposed to be learning here? Perhaps, I needed some downtime, but it's not as if I'm killing myself, working my fingers to the bone on a daily basis. When I don't play, I feel like such a slug. I've wasted so much time already. O.K., it doesn't sound like I'm succeeding at overcoming my negativity.
When I did sit down to the piano today, it seemed that I was playing with more concentration and more energy, more emotion coming through. Maybe downtime is good. Then my brain started to fuzz over and I was back at square one. So, I took the dogs for a walk (yes! I can walk today!) and tried to keep my mind in a submissive state and open to guidance. No great revelation yet but I'm confident that I will have an epiphany sooner or later.
Right now, I'm going to give it another try. I'll just work through the fuzzy brain and maybe something good will come.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Civility


I just finished reading A World Waiting to Be Born, Civility Rediscovered by M. Scott Peck, M.D. Dr. Peck defines civility as "consciously motivated organizational behavior that is ethical in submission to a Higher Power". Wow, that's a mouthful. The book has a decidedly Christian viewpoint, but Dr. Peck accommodates all religions by using the term "Higher Power".
Interesting to me is the fact that civility is not mere politeness. At times, one must be impolite in order to be truly civil as civility refers more to honesty in our interactions with each other. I'm not suggesting you approach that stranger at the aquarium and inform him that he'd look more attractive if he'd cover up that third roll of adipose tissue hanging over his shorts. No, that would be downright rude and not guided by a Higher Power. (Remember the last part of the definition?) But smiling and nodding politely in order to avoid confrontation with friends, family, or co-workers can be uncivil behavior when it robs us of a chance to have an honest interaction which could enrich and enlighten us, albeit sometimes painfully.
Dr. Peck also defines health as "an ongoing process, often painful, of an organism becoming the most--the best--it can be". This applies to the physical healing of an individual, but more to changes in an organization or any type of system or relationship. He states that "Genuine civility is a form of healing behavior that demands often painful honesty and the scalpel of candor." Not easy to put that into action. No wonder we smile and look the other way instead of rocking the boat. It takes a real commitment to consciously look at another person, hear what they're saying, see who they really are, and react with honesty and consideration of a higher authority.
The opposite would be narcissism--a precursor to incivility. A narcissist doesn't look at others, in fact is hardly aware of them and relates to them as "the enemy" if at all. We all have narcissistic tendencies, but I'm talking about a real personality disorder. Most of us can become aware of our narcissism, our self-centeredness, and alter our focus to include others. Admittedly an introvert, I am more conscious of my own self-absorption after reading this book.
Dr. Peck wants to change the world by helping organizations practice civility. Noble, and entirely doable if the desire is there. He thinks it will happen because it is cost-effective for businesses to function this way. How do we convince businesses that it is cost-effective?
Personally, I have to start with myself. It's a daily process and I have a lot to work on.
Addendum to the previous post: A female hummingbird showed up 2 days after I filled the feeders. Yea!
With love,
Serena

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Renewal

I filled my hummingbird feeders and put them outside today. Early, I know, but I'm ready for Spring and if some early birds show up, they won't be disappointed. Last year a hummer danced in front of my window while I scrambled to boil water, clean a feeder and mix up a sugary meal--which then had to cool before I could serve it. There will not be a repeat performance this year. Dinner is prepared and awaiting their arrival.

My afternoon was spent repotting some of my porch plants. Disturbing, because some are in really bad shape. This unusually cold winter caused more damage than I had realized. I was brutal in cutting away damaged leaves, fronds, and roots while visualizing the new growth that will soon flourish.

With the same spirit I am challenging myself to cut away old beliefs, free myself from unhealthy roots that are hampering my growth. I anticipate a spiritual and physical renewal of my entire being--body and soul.

Spring forward with joy,
Serena